How do i get my friends to understand?

ok, so im 25 and in a town with few gay people, so my question is, how do i get them to understand, that sometimes i am completely surrounded by people, and yet feel so alone, its like they dont get that im the only gay person in our social group, and im lonely and when i get a little down a bout it, they dont understand why....how do i let them know without sounding like a big pansy....?%26gt;

How do i get my friends to understand?
You could try and tell them as though your OK with it, if you don't then they may not really understand, maybe you could talk to the other gay people, if you know they're gay, everyone knows they're gay, they may be able to help.
Reply:I'd talk to one of the more liber individuals who you may trust more and tell them what you're experiencing, it sounds like you may not be out of the closet and thats fine, but trust me, almost everyone knows another gay person, and you might even be introduced to someone's cousin or brother in the process. Coming out can be tough and not everyone may understand, but there will be people who do and that can be a great comfort.



Also, just for kicks, maybe you can pursuade some of the group to do a road trip to a bigger city with more gay people and have an outing at one of the bars or restaurants.
Reply:just be honest with them and let them know how you feel. Some of the reason that you may be feeling this way is because you don't feel completely comfortable around your friend because you are different than them or you think that they might be judging your life style. Just be really honest and if they can't except you or your feelings than they really may not be your friends after all!
Reply:dude, i completely know where you are coming from. everyone in my town is either straight...most narrow-minded and homophobic, and the very few that are gay, are in the closet...and sometimes i feel so alone, and that there is no one that truely understands you because unless you are gay, you have no clue how it feels to be a minority....i feel of you dude, and its almost impossible to get people to know how you feel..even your friends that you love, and that love you, truely don't understand how you feel...its tough, they just don't understand. if you ever want to talk about it, email me through yahoo.
Reply:Just tell them how you feel and they will understand if they don't then o well they will get over it. As long as you get everything off your chest it doesn't matter.
Reply:I am in exactly the same boat that you are in right now.

I can sit amongst good friends and feel completely alone and sad.

I have lived in large cities with a big gay population ever since high school and now I am in a small town with no outlet for my gay social side.



I have expressed this with a couple of my friends and they understand and sympathize. They have even offered to take a trip to a city that is four hours away with me so that I can romp and play with my fellow sisters and brothers. Just let the friends you trust with your feelings know and I am sure they will understand.
Reply:It is indeed often the case when we are living in small communities and sometimes our hetero friends cannot fill up the aspiration of our soul to share with people of same orientation as us. Being Gay is not just about sexuality, it is also about feelings and sharing and it is difficult to share sometimes with people who are not like us. But true you should open yourself to your closet friends it would make things possibly easier for you and at least if they go somewhere else with you they would not be shocked or negative if they see you flirting with another guy or going to a gay location.



Courage!

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