Why don't parents spank their children anymore?

I'm sure anyone who's seen these "Nanny shows" on television like Nanny 911 and Super-Nanny knows what I'm talking about. All this talk about "naughty spots" etc. etc. It makes me so frustrated because I just want to tell the parents on there: "You don't need a television show to fix your child. Just grab a belt and give them a good spanking and they settle down. Parents have been doing it all through history, and guess what? It works. So why don't parents seem to want to give spankings anymore? Has our entire society just gone soft? I fear for the future when I see all these pansy children growing up without a parent willing to take charge. Our prisons are going to be overrun with people who had no idea there are consequences for your actions. My parents spanked me and I love them for it. Discuss please.

Why don't parents spank their children anymore?
YES, our entire society has gone soft, 95% of all Americans (disgraceful fact) are so apathetic that if you put them in a situation that is morally wrong and say to (for example) force the persons hand onto a shock plate then push the switch causing them to die you would do so on the orders of a powerful appearing person you had never met in your life before (this was an experiment conducted to see if Germans were mentally different because of actions at the holocaust). Americans in this study proved to be the MOST apathetic nation in the world as a first world country. Thus to your question the television is GOD and no matter what it says or how it says what it says the message is (at least partially) conveyed. As such if a show tells parents to use a corner rather than physical violence it is what will occur.





Also spanking (or other forms of physical punishment) of a child is child abuse that has proved to increase the chance of specific mental dificiencies by up to 20%. Thus your answer not so much in a nut shell but in a simple number of sentences.
Reply:I'm a kid, ok a teen, and I agree with spanking, (you don't hear that everyday do you? a kid who agrees!) lol Report It

Reply:Why would parents teach their children that the way to control a situation is by physically assaulting the person who isn't behaving in a way that you believe is appropriate?


Parents should spend more quality time being parents. Spend real time with their kids rather than dumping them in daycare. Perhaps if we raised our own kids instead of leaving it to strangers our kids would be better for it.
Reply:Well parents are afraid of the consequences. Just like now a days children will threaten the parents with calling the police on them for hitting them. I find it ridiculous. But then again if they are strict onthe child from a young age they wont need all that.


I was strict on my duaghter at a young age and she wont act up now. There is no naughty spot but taking away things help.





I don' think you should hit your kids because that certainly isn't teaching them to trust you it is teaching them to be afraid ofyou. I dont watn my children to be afraid of me.


They are scared enought of getting yelled at if they do something wrong.





My mom never spanked me and maybe i needed it but...that is a whole other story.





I guess i may have spanked a few times but the older they get hte less i would spank and the less i would have to spank...
Reply:Too many people crossed the line of abuse so now no one is suppose to do it.....they risk DSS coming and taking their kid to an even more abusive environment.
Reply:Well im a kid, i was spanked when i was little. It scarred me a bit, but im really well behaved and now i follow orders but it makes me scared to say my opinion. I guess it more depends on how often it happens, and how hard. Although i still do love my parents and i hate little spoiled rotten kids. I Agree with the answer above mine ( i think its above anyhow) a lot of kids these days are just rude and inconsiderate. Yes im 12..and i do think its good to be spanked every now and then
Reply:I totally agree!! I've seen the way a lot of children act and yes i know i am one, but if i get in trouble i get spanked even if I'm 13!! And believe me whatever i did i don't do it no more lol but i still love my parents!! I really think that a lot of children would act better if they just got a good spanking once!!!
Reply:Never seen any nanny shows, but I think the old saying is "Spare the rod, spoil the child". We can deny it, but it's still true today.





But that doesn't mean you have to beat the crap out of a kid to get their attention. Adolf Hitler became screwed up mentally because he was abused as a child.
Reply:maybe some parents just dont believe in spanking anymore...... some do...... my old babysitter had a belt (for her children.. not the ones she watched) and one of the kids she watched, her parents had a paddle....... i guess some parents dont believe in physical punishment anymore...... i dont think i will spank my kids.....





and i wasnt spanked when i was younger and i'm respectful and obedient........ and sometimes its bad...... my grandma's mom had a bit of a temper and she would beat her kids (when they were bad) w/ whatever she had in her hand..... these r some of the things my grandma was hit w/.......... tuna can, curtain rod, broom stick, high heel, the non-sharp end of a knife, and alot more..... ouch.....
Reply:Because they're growing up and maturing, my parents stopped spanking me when i first started middle school
Reply:So does that mean when you make a mistake that i can come up to you and hit you? timeouts and other alternative punishments work much better than hitting or spanking. Especially with a young child. When you hit or spank your child the only thing you are teaching them is to resolve problems with violence. You are also undermining your relationship with your child. I'm surely not gonna trust a person who hits me! think about it that way before you raise your hand to a child who cant defend them self. Why is that hitting an adult is assault and hitting a child is so called punishment??? Seems it would be the other way around since an adult can defend themselves and a child cannot. There is absolutely NO reason that an adult should ever strike a child!
Reply:I am with you 100%. My parents spanked me and I thank them for it. kids need to be spanked, it has worked for hundreds of years. and most of the greatest figures of history were spanked as kids.


the problems is that the government has given to much power to the kids. they have taught the kids that they can call the police if they do not get treated exactly the way they want. if there is any discipline at all the kids can call 911. this has scared many parents so the parents let the kids run wild. then there are the "experts" like those on TV that think you should be the child's Friend, and not a parental figure.
Reply:because they end up with adults like you, who think that beating a child is the answer to problems. I hope that my kids will think differently than you, and will not look to the past an example of a perfect world, but will look to the future and wonder how things can be improved.
Reply:Well when I was young my parent's beat the living sh*t out of me for things I had not done, my father would for no reason walk past me %26amp; slap me hard around the side of my head blowing my ear drum on my left side once leaving me partially deaf in that ear, he said it was for something I did wrong that he never caught me for!





Because of the way I was bought up I could not smack my own children, but I had to stop my X wife from beating them when I felt it was enough punishment.





I believe taking privledges away has a far bigger impact than violence, %26amp; it gives them reason to realise that taking away from them say tv for a few days, %26amp; stick to it without giving in, is painful but not to their health or mental status when they are adults.





Its the way a parent brings up their children is what is making so much out of order in the youth today, smacking them is an excuse to escape from the reality of parenting %26amp; passing on love instead of hate.
Reply:I was spanked as a child (judiciously) and I think I turned out pretty good. However, I do think that spanking can also be the lazy man's way to discipline and that it can be ineffective if done too much. There are other things that, if done consistently (key word) are just as, if not more so, effective as spanking. There is the danger of the macho-ism of spanking (look at me big tough parent kind of attitude) and an over-domineering type of parenting that creates children that are unachievers who hide a lot of anger (believe me, I'm from the South where spanking is an honored way of raising kids----I have seen it backfire pretty badly!).





You've got to be careful that you're not just lashing out at your kids with quick anger but that you're specifically trying to teach them something---especially when it comes to safety. Spanking kids takes the least amount of intelligence when it comes to discipline and so it's an easy response to misbehaving kids, but alternative ways should also be tried. Most of us have the brains to do it.
Reply:I completely agree! I used to get spanked when I was younger and guess what? I'm glad I did! Discipline early in life is very important to the development of a child. I've seen too many cases where children who are put in so called "naughty spots" turn out to be very disrespectful and wild. They see it as a game and laugh when they are punished. Kudos to parents who love their kids enough to spank them.
Reply:OUR SYSTEM HAS CHASTIZED PARENTS FOR PHYSICAL ABUSE. HOWEVER, THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ABUSE AND CHASTIZING YOUR CHILD. I WATCHED AS A YOUNG PARENT SPANKED HER SON FOR DOING SOMETHING OUTRAGEOUS IN A STORE. ANOTHER WOMAN CAME OVER AND READ THE YOUNG MOTHER THE RIOT ACT AND THREATENED TO CALL THE POLICE. THE MOTHER PANICED AND LEFT THE STORE. I STOOD IN LINE BEHIND THIS WELL-MEANING WOMAN AND SHE STARTED TO TELL ME OF THE INCIDENT. WHEN I SIDED WITH THE YOUNG MOTHER, THE WOMAN BECAME INDIGNANT WITH ME AND TOLD ME I WAS WRONG. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ABUSE AND CORRECTING YOUR CHILD WITH A SMACK ON THE BUTT. IT HURTS NOTHING BUT THEIR FEELINGS. IT ALSO LET'S THE CHILD KNOW THAT MOM STILL IS IN CHARGE AND THERE ARE CONSEQUENSES FOR NEGATIVE ACTIONS. OUR LAWS NEED ADJUSTED.
Reply:Because it's "OMG! CHILD ABUSE!" It will ruin their self esteem... It will make them get in 149053085738 fights in one day. It will make them fear you. It will make them hate you.





I completely agree with you. I just watch those shows and laugh, because the kids are SO out of control. And the parents are just like "-tear tear- how in the world did they get this way? what did i do as a parent to deserve this? PLEASE HELP!" They are so pathetic they have to get advice from a lady who doesn't even have kids herself. Naughty corner. HAH. I wish I got the naughty corner when I was little so I can laugh in the face of who gave it to me.





It's hysterical. These are the people who have their kids tell them to shut the f*** up, and stay out of their mother-f***in business, and they want to be like "omg why do they act like that?" Their idea of punishing their kids for that is "talking to them and making them say sorry." I don't understand that, because if I talked to my parents in that way, every last one of my teeth would be knocked down my throat.





It's ridiculous how so many kids are out of control. I know. I went to school with so many teenagers who told the teachers on a daily basis "shut the f*** up". and "you can't tell me what the f*** to do".





and here's a good one. I even have a friend who talks to his mother in that way. And what a coincidence, she's one of those parents who have never laid a hand on him... She's one who has "grounded" him. He even tells me he talks to her that way because he knows she isn't going to do anything.. Wow. What a coincidence.. Grounding is totally better than spanking.
Reply:I totally agree with you. My momma spanked me!!!! I certainly think it helps have more respectable kids. They need to be taught right from wrong at an early age and need to know if they don't obey... there will be consequences. Parents need to put their foot down and be the parent and not the friend who lets them run all over them! Now don't get me wrong because sometimes time out and punishment do work. If parents spank, kids will know not to do certain things because they know they will get a spanking if they do.
Reply:My parents definetely spank me and it really help me to be who I'm, because every kid is rebellious when there are younger and if you don't show them who is boss they will ran all over you're ***, both mom and dad. What you need to decide is when spanking them is necessary and when to do it. Not just when, but please don't spank them like animals, because I believe that you are a human being, or you? Know one thing, that kids are smarter than adults and get smarter every year they are born, so try to out smart them rather than spanking them. Be smart not dump! I hate child abusers! Oh, the TV is not the nanny or the aswer to your child.





On your behalf, as a parent, spend as much time as you can with your child besides the necessary work time. Your kids act bad because you don't spend time with them. Love them and show it!
Reply:not sure...but they need to!
Reply:They're scared of going to jail. Look at the responses you get. See the ones who say it's abuse? Yeah, they'll report you. Do you know why? Because they feel they know how to raise your kids, and you don't.
Reply:I spank my children whenever they need it. And because I spanked them a lot when they were younger, they need it far less often now.





It's always been my belief that if your heart isn't bruised on their soft little bottoms, it's going to be crushed by their big hard ***.
Reply:I just wonder why almost everyone refuse to spank their kids when really bad. In many cases, the children must know that they should not have done the wrong things? If they know, why should we forgive them and said "don't do that next time"? If spanking will lead to thier violence behaviour, I also want to say forgive them by teaching them a lesson will also mislead them they will be forgiven by everyone when they are wrong.





Sometimes, they are out of control and even worst. Honestly, how many of you can control the behaviour of your kids without the spanking? I read from one mother's passage. She believe in pants and underwears down spanking. It is the most efficient way. And I strongly agree with her. Honestly, I was spanked in the same way when I was really bad before 10. I turn out really good now. I still love my parents. I understand I really hate spanking by my mum. However, do u you what is the meaning of punishment? Punishment is something u will be given that u really don't want to have or given when u fail to do sth or not behave well. If u enjoy it, how come it is a punishment? It is an award.





I was spanked with my pants down when I was really bad until 9. I think it really works for me. Because when I want to do sth wrong, I must think carefully the result. If I hate spanking with my pants down, I need to stop.





So everybody, try to think it deeply. To have a good kid, sometimes spanking is needed.
Reply:They don't spank there kids for one of 2 reasons. A-they really don't feel like taking the time to dicipline their children B-kids have been known to "divorce" their parents.





Horrible really.
Reply:When I see a parent spank a child, I see a parent that is saying "I am not smart enough to deal with my problems without using violence. I am incapable of using creative discipline on my child and the only thing I understand is hitting."





If you don't have the creative brainpower to discipline a child verbally, they you are a poor parent. There is no behavior that can ONLY be solved by striking a child. Children are easy to manipulate. Threaten to take away a toy or video game, and then follow-through on your threats if they don't comply. Tell them they wont get to watch that show or eat that favorite food. But you must follow through if they don't comply. Establish boundaries and discipline that are based on reward and denial, not slapping and hitting.
Reply:well mostly because there are so many laws that protect children from such things and now a days all a child has to do is go to school and report the parent and the next thing you know you have some child agency intruding but one thing for certain and two things for sure my grandmother use to beat my butt and i sure as heck beat my childrens butt
Reply:umm.. cause itz wrong!! duhh.... lol

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