Is Parenting today the way to go?

No spanking

No yelling

No pinching

No twisting the ear



So what do we do - time out?

Take a toy away?





Do we even know if this works, it seems like such a new thing. I hardly talk to people over the age of 25 that say their parents used time outs to teach them respect, discipline and good manners. Most of them say they got spanked, hit or even beaten.

How do we know the new way of raising kids really works?

How do we know we are not raising a bunch of overly sensitive pansies that like to walk all over their own parents?

Some of these kids are really stubborn and strong willed, time outs don't seem to work with them.

I mean I got people who just ahd a baby tell me how to parent, to not hit to not yell, how the hell do they know what to do yet??? Because they read a few books?

Please keep in mind that I trully believe in communicationa nd spending quality with your children (both parents) but I am simply referring to the level of discipline we use today

Is Parenting today the way to go?
Spanking is okay as a last resort, in my opinion. There is noooo way that yelling, pinching, twisting ears is okay (or slapping in face-- this is all a form of abuse)... didn't you ask in a previous question for info on why your children fight and yell all the time???.... I think you've answered your own question...
Reply:Time outs and taking toys away work for minor, to med. misbehavior. I will never twist an ear, or pinch. I try never to yell, I just raise my voice a little, to sound serious. I do however believe in the good old fashion spanking, as a last resort. It takes all the stress out. I allow my daughters to make the choice, there are plenty of warnings. If they persist, they know their bare fanny will be over my lap getting a spanking.



Do what you think is right.

Good Luck









OK SUFK, your right, I am a stay at home mom, your point???? Are you better because your children are in daycare??? Whats your point? If you think someone being a PHD would make them a better parent, your sadly mistaken. I'll take results, a lifetime of proven results, over new age methods (for major offenses) any day. PS, spanking bare butt, is far from humiliating, it's a spanking, stop trying to make into something it's not.
Reply:See thats why i say IT IS MY GOD GIVEN RIGHT to raise my kids the way I WANT TO!! :)



I think that every parent is differnt and if they can get their child to obay them and be a good child that listens without ever raising their voice, tapping them on the butt... or anything that is considered "old school parenting" well then congratulations to them....



But my sons have had their butts busted with good reason.. a 4 year old should know NOT to run outside with out mommy knowing... or when im cleaning up glass on the floor and he wants to walk threw the room and i tell him not to and why and he ignores me...



I have 2 strong willed sons i know exactly what you are talking about... Im with you completely!



Look i firmly believe that some of the psycho babble really works, although spankings have been looked down on for about what 25-30 years with the dr spock generation.. I think when you look at that and then look at how much of a increase the juvinille delenquent centers have had on them there must be a corilation somewhere.



I have never beat my children or hit them out of frustration to shut up the antispankers before they get started... because if i did my children would both walk around black and blue lol



I say raise your kids the way you see fit and if someone tells you you shouldnt do this or that having a newborn... laugh in their face and say awww bless your soul, your going to be going crazy 2 years from now and then we can have a comprehensive conversation on this matter, untill then advise them to live and learn.



I know a guy that has a PhD in Psychology and he said he thought he had it all figured out before he had kids... he thought that parenting for him was going to be easy.... And guess what.. He has "problems" with his children. And he doesnt have it all figured out... so if someone with a doctorate in psychology doesnt have it all figured out... well i highly doubt anyone who just read a book has a clue... I would put money on it they dont... just let them talk and let them think they have it all figured out... :)
Reply:Wow - quite the group here! I actually HAVE raised my kids without spanking. They are now 16 and 18. I home educated them until high school, and they are just about heading to college now (one this fall, one next fall). Time outs were not the only discipline we used. We also used rewards for good behavior. Sometimes a child would have to repeat a chore or behavior over until it was done correctly (if you run down through a room, you have to go back and walk through the room - if you sweep the room and it is still dirty, sweep it again, etc.). There are a lot of other options besides resorting to hitting/spanking a child. Violence just leads to more violence in my opinion.
Reply:God gave us hands for a reason...not chairs.

So many of todays younger kids are little brats (when mom is NOT around) and its because their parents are too scared to spank the asses.
Reply:Spanking on the bare butt is humiliating and degrading oldschoolmom. While you claim that spanking works wonders for you, you are still a (stay at home mom) That is all you are.



Time out works great for us. Our kids do not walk all over us. We get compliments on how well behaved our kids are. We have never resorted to hitting them to teach them a lesson. We don't use pain or humiliation to correct misbehavior. There are alot of permissive parents out there that use no discipline at all. Any parent who spanks, hits, smacks need some parenting classes. Any parent who has no form of discipline at all also need parenting classes. Just because one has children and spanks them does not mean they are a good parent because they use an old fashioned technique.